People tell you a lot of things about birth, how much it hurt, how badly they tore (they needed a WHOLE SPOOL of thread to sew me up… uhhhh sure), about their birth plan and/or how perfect or awful their birth was. Some of that may be true, but here are some things NO ONE warns you of regarding labour and delivery.Why didn't anyone tell me this before I gave birth? Click To Tweet
- There is NO privacy in the delivery room, you have no control over who comes in and out of the labour room. When I was giving birth there was no joke over 10 people there. No, I was not happy about it, but since I had already been pushing for two hours and didn’t have the mental ability to yell at the nurses and students to get out I had a big audience staring at my crotch while I pushed out a baby.
- You have no control over your modesty. You *think* by telling people to stay by your head you can spare them some nudity and keep some privacy. Nope. They have to get in and out of the room and your legs are wide open for HOURS sometimes, so there is no hiding that. Also, people kept stripping me without my consent! When they want me in a gown, my clothes come off and I can’t do anything about it. Baby comes out, they wipped off all the blankets and gowns covering me to place baby on my boobs, my mom was there (and that whack of strangers) so I did not appreciate having my coverings ripped off to expose my naked post-baby body to everyone. Or have them watch me catheterized or getting stitched up after, or delivering a placenta. Unfortunately, you do not have an option sometimes.
Choose who you want in the delivery room very carefully, you will not be able to control what they see… neither will they for that matter.
- You go to the bathroom in front of people. Whether it is someone bringing you to the bathroom during labour (yeah not something you want an audience for either) because they alone, or after, or just the nurse saying she has to see you pee after, yup, you get to do that in front of people too.
- People have to help you shower, and by people, I mean my husband lol. You know you are close when your husband helps you wash all the post-baby/labour off of you!
- You can be in the early stages of labor for WEEKS. Yup, not kidding. With my first I had contractions every hour for a week before I had her. I am talking tears of pain, gasps, and sometimes screams. I could not sleep for longer than two hours without waking up screaming with contractions. It sucks so bad! You are so tired of them and exhausted before labour even starts.
- You may not even notice when your water breaks. I KNEW it with my first but my second, no idea when it broke as I wasn’t sure it even did until I had the baby. On TV the water breaks, then they go into labour. Yeah, that RARELY happens. Most women have their water break during labour or someone has to help break it. Your water may not break all the way so the doctor/midwife might have to help break the rest of it. This is not comfortable and can be a little painful I might add.
- Getting “checked” aka how dilated you are is super uncomfortable and hurts really bad during a contraction. Brace yourself and breath. I actually yelled at my Midwife “get out get out get out!” when I got a contraction in the middle of my internal.
- Sorry to be graphic but…… it seriously feels like you are trying to poop out a Saint Bernard, the way baby comes down, you honestly feel like they are trying to come out of your butt. I said this sooo many times in labour to my husband! “How are you doing sweetie”? “It feels like I am trying to poop out a Saint Bernard”!! Cue everyone’s laughter including mine .
- Having the baby is not the end of labour. You still have to deliver the placenta afterwards, which does require a little pushing and stuff.
- Contractions also do not stop after labour. After-birth pains, which get more painful and worse with each subsequent child, so so painful! Advil and Tylenol do not take the pain away!!
- Hours after birth you will be ready to do it all over again. My sister asked me when she came to visit me with my first, would you do it again? I said yes, just not right away!
- You will be amazed at how in love you are with this new baby. They have already stolen your heart before they are even born, once you meet them you’re done. If almost hurts how much you love them!
- You will fall in love with your husband all over again! Watching him with your new little bundle of joy will melt your heart and fill you with another kind of love too
What were you unaware of before you had to give birth? Any surprises during labour or in the delivery room? Please share them in the comments below.Choose who you want in the delivery room carefully, they will see everything. Click To Tweet