Being in a relationship can be really challenging at times. No two people are alike and everyone perceives love and appreciation differently, which can sometimes create resentment and a lot of misunderstandings. It can be easy to take your partner for granted and assume they know how much you appreciate what they do for you. I find especially with children it is so easy to get distracted and forget about each other and how much you appreciate them.
Tammy from Married & Naked put together The Ultimate Marriage Journal – 365 Days of Appreciation for married couples to show each other love and appreciation on a daily basis. By showing each other gratitude on a daily basis you can focus on the good parts of each other more thus achieving a happier marriage.
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When I heard about the The Ultimate Marriage Journal – 365 Days of Appreciation I was really excited to try it out with my husband. I was not sure how he would feel about it, taking a few minutes each day to remember and write stuff down can be challenging. We have two young children and have a hard time remembering things and even harder a time finding time for anything that is not essential. When I approached my husband I went with the passive aggressive ”Hey sweetie, do you think our relationship is worth five minutes everyday?”, how could he say no to that?!?
We are going on week three and it is going really well. Even on days when we are annoyed at each other, we can still find things that are positive to write down and show our appreciation and love towards each other. I was amazed at how enthusiastic my husband is. He makes sure to check the book whenever he walks by to see if I filled in my entry for the day yet. He reminds me to fill it in if I have forgotten as well.
One of the best parts about this book is we can mix it up depending on our moods. Sometimes our messages are humorous, other times, practical and can even be romantic and lovey at times. I even dress up the pages sometimes by putting stickers on some days to make it fun and entertaining.
Not that my husband and I fought a lot before (we aren’t perfect either though) but I have found in the three weeks that we started using this journal we have argued less. I think it is easy to take each other for granted or even just to FEEL that you are being taken for granted. I really believe writing things out in this journal helps to remind each other that you DO in fact notice everything your partner does for you. Even if you are annoyed with each other you can still fill out the journal with something you are appreciative for. Since starting the journal we notice the things we do for each other more and are a lot happier with each other.
We leave it on the counter with a special pencil that way we don’t forget about it and remember to fill it out every day.