Ever wondered what it would be like to have Pagan friends? Think it would be weird? Wonder if they would stick out and make it obvious they were not Christian? Probably not. You have probably known Pagans at one time or another in your life and may or may not know it.
First of all what is a Pagan? How is it different from Wiccan? The easiest way I can use to describe it would be to say that Pagan is like the spirituality view (aka Christian) while Wiccan or shaman or kitchen witch would be the denomination (like Catholic or United). Telling a Pagan they are going to hell is funny, since we don’t believe in hell or the devil. We believe (many at least, there are always exceptions) in reincarnation. So no, we do not worship the devil as we don’t believe in one. We do believe in good and evil though.
One thing that is similar between pretty much all religions or spirituality beliefs is the Golden Rule or the Rule of Three fold. The Christians have do unto others as you would have done unto you. Pagans believe in the three fold rule, whatever you send out into the universe comes back to you three fold. If you are worried about a friend being a Pagan or a witch and putting a spell on you, I wouldn’t worry. They would only be sending out good vibes for you, otherwise it would come back three times as strong to them. No one wants to put that kind of negative energy out there.
Some different things you may encounter
with Pagan’s or Pagan kids:
A lot frequent Pagan festivals and rituals
They are not as scary as they seem. A lot of non-Pagans called “Pagan friendly” attend. No need to be Pagan only to go! They have workshops during the day, concerts, rituals, and drumming & dancing at night. Rituals are actually mostly people standing around in a circle outside. Usually with one or a few people in the middle talking. If you are ever at a festival some may even allow you to sit on the outskirts to watch.
The night life, specifically the drumming & dancing is the best part of festivals. A huge bonfire in the middle, 20-30 drummers and 50+ people dancing around in circles. This is the highlight of the festival and always lots of fun. I have little ones asleep in the tent so I have missed this for the past five years, but it is a great way to get in some exercise, meet new friends, and have a blast.
- They may celebrate double the holidays you do. Or celebrate things twice, or only the Pagan version. Many mainstream holidays today had their roots in Paganism. When the church started converting people thousands of years ago they found it was easier to keep similar holidays to what people were used to. Thus we celebrate a lot of things twice. Yule is December 21 & Christmas is December 25. Ostara is March 21 & Easter is usually a few weeks later. Mabon is September 21 & Thanksgiving around October 11th.Most of these we celebrate with a family dinner (sometimes with extended family). We often exchange gifts, usually home-made for the Pagan version.
- You may receive random gifts around holiday’s you have never heard about. We often give Ostara baskets or treats to our family, friends, & kids teachers.
- You may hear traditional holiday songs sang with changed pagan tunes: Jingle Bells, Walking in a Wiccan Wonderland, Silent Night, etc. My son also asks for chants at nap time to fall asleep.
Other Things you may encounter:
- We like to dress up all year round! My kids dress as fairies, dragons, witches, etc. on a regular basis. We frequently carry belly dancing skirts in our purses to put on at events and festivals. We also like to wear cloaks and capes as much as we can!
- They will have odd decorations in their house like brooms, wands, gemstones, goddess statues, books, tarot cards, mini cauldrons, etc. You may also find some typical decorations we use for magic like candles, incense, and seasonal decorations. NOTE: It is always polite to ask before touching someone’s magic tools. Most people don’t want them touched by others and they are usually only used for magic purposes.
- Some Pagan’s have altars outside or inside, as with the tools above, look all you want, even compliment. But please, do not touch! Pagan’s believe each item has a certain “energy” and when you touch it, you throw that off or change it.
- They may say things like “goddess bless”, “thank the gods” and other witchy phrases. Like with all religions, take it as meant. If someone says they are praying for me, I do not get offended, people mean it with love and I can pray to my gods in return for them. If someone is sick, needs a prayer or is dying, Pagans often light a candle for them. So if someone says they will light a candle for you or a loved one, it is meant like a prayer.
- Pagans and other witchy people have an obsession with all things witchy. That may be Samhain (or the traditional Halloween), Harry Potter, bones, stones, fire, anything. We have pumpkin and witch decorations around year round in this house. My kids also ride toy broomsticks (meant as a sweeping kit not for magic!) and play “witch”.
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